a ninja parenting tool for dramatically more calm and productive conversations with a child who’s misusing drugs or alcohol, with Brenda Zane

Host: Brenda Zane, brenda@brendazane.com
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Episode resources:

PDF downloadable infographic of S.U.R.F. tool is here

Episode chapters:

02:17 introducing the S.U.R.F tool

03:05 S stands for SPECIFIC

06:07 U stands for UNDERSTANDING

07:48 R stands for RESPONSIBILITY

09:26 F stands for FEELINGS

11:32 Mixing it all together, example statement

13:00 5 tips for implementing SURF successfully into your conversations

17:18 review of the S.U.R.F. acronym

17:38 upcoming workshop on S.U.R.F. for Stream members and how to join us